Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can damn near kill me.
If someone asked me what I would rather have happen – a solid punch to the gut or a glimpse into the mind of someone who was judging me, I would gladly accept the punch to the gut. Physical pain can be handled and forgotten. However, the emotional pain that comes from hearing negative words, even from a stranger, can be devastating and long lasting. The impact of words on negativity and the bruise to your psyche from some well-positioned hate words will last well beyond any physical bruise you receive. Did you ever notice, that our brains have a funny way of cycling these negative words on a never ending hamster wheel within our minds, often keeping them just below the surface until you least expect it. Words have the ability to cut a person, deeply. The hardest thing about these cuts is that they are invisible to the naked eye, because cuts made by words do not show to the outside world, they settle somewhere else. They settle on your confidence, make their home on your happiness and eat away at your ability to believe in yourself. This is the impact of words on negativity.
All of those hamster wheels of negativity are spinning at warp speed in my mind right now.
This is my very first blog post. Which means I am currently thinking of a thousand reasons why I may fail at this new venture. What I am beginning to realize however, is that among all the negative “what ifs” there is one positive “I can” that I am latching onto with all of my might. Life’s a bumpy, chaotic road that none of us have a map to. When you think about it, we are all in this together trying to stumble through with our best foot forwards most of the time but at the end of the day, no one, not even the most powerful person on this chunk of space rock, has any idea what the future holds! Really puts your problems into perspective doesn’t it, my friends? I am trying to grow personally and professionally everyday. To surround myself with people who believe in the same positive message that I am trying to pass on. That you have control over the choices you make at each of the crossroads you come to. You can choose to move forwards and pursue your happiness. Or stay static, choosing the happiness of others over your own. Sounds like a pretty common sense message, doesn’t it? You see, I believe that the things that happen to us are not what make us special. They do not define who we are. Instead, it is the choices we make at each of our crossroads and how we choose to handle what life throws at us that defines who we are. Everyone has gone through something terrible in their lives. Trying to compare your awful to theirs is a defeating exercise that will only result in hurt egos and feelings. We need to come together and realize that we are all stumbling through this playbook called life as blindly as our neighbors and could probably use a little help along the way.
The Impact of Words on Negativity
My life has been dedicated to believing that I had to have the answer to everything, know how every scenario was going to play out. I spent my life putting others happiness before my own to the point that I created an image of myself that I put on display to everyone while simultaneously burying my real true self. This was so self destructive that I was causing a critical piece of who I was to slowly die. I didn’t even realize it. I chose things at the crossroads of my life that made the people around me, my family and friends, happy. Why, you ask? Perhaps you should turn that question around on yourself, my friends.
Have you ever put someone else’s happiness before your own? If so, why? What was the reason for putting your choices on the back burner and allowing someone else to decide your path down that crossroads? Take a moment and comment below. Tell me your story, share the decisions you have made at your crossroads. Who knows, maybe you will see a new direction, a new road, that you never knew existed that just might be the path you were meant to walk on.
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