Sometimes, we judge one another too quickly, and miss out on knowing great people because they are introverted. But what if we actually took the time to interact, perhaps we could find something more wonderful than we ever imagined? This is the case for many who can say they are dating an introvert. Everyone feels comfortable at their own pace, which is why I have created a guide of six things to know before dating an introvert.
1. Awkward Silences
The first one is pretty obvious, if you ask me. Whether you’re on your first date or the tenth, your date might still talk as much as they did the first time they talked to you. It’s not because they are bored, or have something on their mind. Introverts are just like that sometimes. They don’t have much to talk about and it makes them uncomfortable too sometimes, but old habits right? Don’t try to change them, although you may find that they open up to you alone in their own time.
2. Inverse of Life of the Party
Now given that dating an introvert often means less conversation, that also means that they’ll likely not be life of the party either, unless there is drinking involved, of course. Be sure to communicate and test the waters in terms of what your date finds comfortable, as you want to have a good time, while also respecting their comfort. They may be comfortable navigating a party independently, but they may also not want to be alone.
3. Few Phone Calls When Dating an Introvert
Have you ever experienced a significant other that calls you constantly when you are somewhere that they are not? If you are dating an introvert, you will rarely experience this. Most likely, they are alright with no calls at all, as introverts usually prefer text messaging. It gives them time to think about the things they want to talk about, and not feel pressured that they have to think of something to talk about quickly, or that they might be considered boring. It is not about not wanting to interact with you, it is simply a matter of comfort.
4. Possibility for Travel
You may be dating an introvert, but that doesn’t mean travel is out of the option! Introverts enjoy more than just being at home and eating. Many introverts enjoy adventure, and exploring different places. Don’t feel as though you are limited in your options of what to do, as this is often a flawed perception of what it is like to date an introvert. Just because we are quiet, does not mean we don’t enjoy having fun!
5. Less Meet and Greets
An important thing to remember when dating an introvert is to separate desire from comfort. When you like someone, you might make the first move, or act in a way that shows your interest. However, an introvert may not ask to see you again, not because they do not wish to see you, but because dating feels intimidating. In fact, some introverts that I know can go days without human interaction. It might be wise to have you take the first step towards the next date, as things may even feel more comfortable down the road. Everyone adjusts at their own pace. Try to be direct in your communication.
6. Likely Not a Fan of PDA
Every human has hormones and would like to explore their sexuality, but some introverts prefer to keep that exploration very private. They may not be as comfortable with you putting your arms around them as you might be. The same goes for kissing them in public. I’m not saying they don’t want to do those things; they’d just appreciate it if there wasn’t an audience to witness it all! Introverts should come with a manual shouldn’t they? Well, trust me when I say, it’ll totally be worth it once you get to know them! 🙂
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